The elation and optimism I felt after last week’s successful ultrasound lasted exactly 48 hours. Since then, I’ve been bouncing between total terror, all-consuming nausea, and sheer exhaustion.
This is my first foray into morning sickness, which I didn’t have with my first two pregnancies. I might have had a bout of mild nausea here and there, but I think it was mostly a product of wishful thinking. This time around, I’m nauseous all the time. It wakes me up in the middle of the night, and makes getting up in the morning a monumental task. I’m having food aversions to literally every single food. I can barely walk into my kitchen without gagging.
I am grateful for the nausea and it is without a doubt reassuring, although not as much as I would have thought and hoped. And in the rare moments when the nausea lessens, I completely panic, and a feeling of impending doom takes over. Sometimes I feel like I’m walking around with a secret. When my close friends and family continue to be optimistic and excited about this one sticking, I respond with a smile and feigned enthusiasm. But there’s a little nagging feeling in my gut that makes me feel like I know something they don’t know. A nagging feeling that tells me that this one may not last either.
I know the morning sickness is the best possible thing I could be experiencing right now, but ironically it’s part of what’s making me feel so overwhelmed. When I don’t feel well, I have a harder time tackling life and staying strong. I need physical stamina to have mental stamina. But right now, I want to vomit and then take a nap and wake up in about 6 weeks.
Tomorrow is ultrasound #2. Once again, I am terrified. It is so hard to imagine things going as it should when that’s never been your experience. To hear a heart still beating, to see an embryo still growing…please may we be introduced to that phenomenon tomorrow.
I’m sorry that you’re feeling so sick. I am sending you so many positive thoughts for your ultrasound tomorrow! Hugs! ❤
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Thank you! I have to keep remembering that the sickness is a good thing!
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This is the one time when I think feeling sick is great news! So, while I hate that you are struggling with being sick, I do hope it means everything is going well! Wishing you the best at tomorrow’s ultrasound, and hoping you are able to get some sleep tonight in-spite of the inevitable nerves.
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Thank you 🙂 I know that feeling sick is a good sign, but I can’t help always battling the nerves and fears! Keeping my fingers crossed for tomorrow.
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I suspect you will have all kinds of fears throughout. Its the RPL curse – we know all too well what happens when things go wrong. I hope eventually you are able to balance the nerves and fears with some moments of happiness and excitement.
I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping for the absolute best!!
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I am sorry but also glad you feel so sick :). I always told my husband I feel ‘good bad’ because I was so very grateful for the nausea regardless of how physically uncomfortable it is. It is such a very good sign. Fingers crossed and big hugs. Ginger ale saved me although I only drank it after 12 weeks because I was afraid to not feel nausea. Xo
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I have a love/hate relationship with the nausea! Sometimes I forget that it is such a good sign, until I have a few moments without it – then I immediately miss it and want it back! I’ve been sucking on ginger candies, but I feel the same away about not wanting to do anything to make it completely go away. Hoping it brings good things for tomorrow 🙂
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I’m sorry you’re so nauseous, but I agree with the others, that it’s probably a good sign! And I wouldn’t freak out too much when you have moments of non-illness…think of it as a short reprieve! 🙂 Crossing fingers that your ultrasound goes amazing tomorrow and you hear that heartbeat loud and clear!
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Thank you! I’m working on not freaking out too much when the nausea lessens…the first few times it terrified me, and now I’m *trying* to think of it as a small gift. Good thing those moments are few and far between!
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Thinking of you tomorrow!!! I hope peace comes from great news at tomorrow’s appointment.
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Thanks so much!! 🙂
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I hope you can feel just remotely better for your mental health but no so much that you no longer feel reassured. I’ll be waiting for your post on the ultrasound and hoping its a great one.
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Thank you! Hopefully if we have a few more good ultrasounds I can start to calm down and cope with everything a little better…keeping my fingers crossed.
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i feel you! i simultaneously feel guilty and thrilled about complaining about morning sickness. great thoughts for tomorrow!!
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Thanks! I totally feel guilty complaining, because I am so grateful for it at the same time. Part of me still can’t believe I’m actually experiencing morning sickness – I’ve been wanting it so bad for so long!
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Sending all the best from NYC!
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Thank you! ❤
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I pretty much gagged/puked/slept through my first trimester–I don’t really remember anything but the ultrasounds. So, sounds like things are going well! But yes, I did vomit in my OBGYN’s office before a couple of my early ultrasounds. Take some breath mints & kleenex. Ibelieve everything will be ok ❤ XOXO
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Yeah, nerves on top of nausea is a tough combo, so these ultrasounds really do me in! I have yet to throw up, but am spending most of my time gagging, sleeping, or trying to find something I can possibly put in my stomach. Thank you so much for your positive thoughts! ❤
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One of my OBs said that the sicker you are, the higher chance of a good outcome. So take that to heart. Although I know none of that logic really matters after RPL. Hoping for a great update later today. Maybe the good news will even make you vomit ;-).
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Haha! I keep having to remind myself the nausea is a good sign, and for a good cause! So many mantras in my head to combat all the RPL fears. But so far so good!
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Praying for you and your “phenomenon”.
With heart,
Dani
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Thank you! ❤
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Praying for you and that your ultrasound goes well tomorrow! Sending lots of love and hugs!!!
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Thank you!! ❤
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Yucky, I am so sorry you feel so icky. It is not fun even when we know we want it to stick around to reassure us that all is well. Thinking about you and I hope that today’s US goes so well. Praying against the fears and hoping you are flooded with peace! XO
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Thank you! I have a love/hate relationship with the nausea…I know it’s a good thing and it keeps me much calmer than I would be otherwise! ❤
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Praying for another amazing ultrasound tomorrow! The morning sickness is a good sign. I take it as a things are going well, and although its scary when it stops it won’t be the same daily. Take blessings in the feelings. 🙂
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Thank you! I am grateful for every single symptom and sign of pregnancy! ❤
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I hope that the ultrasound went well today. Congratulations on being pregnant TODAY. Take it one day at a time, one moment at a time. RPL is a total b*@^#. I have a home doppler that I am done with and would like to pass on to you if you would like it. Let me know if you would like it.
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Wow, that is so sweet of you! I would LOVE a doppler! Are you sure you don’t mind? Thank you so much, for that and for all the kind words of encouragement ❤
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I really admire your honesty here… the nausea could also becoming from nerves. Stress and anxiousness can play havoc with our tummies – easy for me to say but try to relax, focus on other things and think positive thoughts. Pass your fighting spirit to little bean x
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I definitely notice an increase in the nausea during the most stressful moments (i.e. before an ultrasound) and I generally have a bit of a nervous stomach, so I know that’s not helping. Trying my hardest to stay present and be grateful for each day I am pregnant, nausea and all!
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Did you doctor suggest unisom and B6? Worked wonders for me, seriously!
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My doctor has been pushing Zofran over unisom/B6, but I feel hesitant to take Zofran. I’m starting to think I should try unisom and B6 as it seems to work well for others, and I’m seriously going crazy feeling nauseous all the time!
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My doctor told me to at least try the unisom and b6 first. I was honestly shocked how well it worked for me!
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